the fit-ology approach
You know how being “smart but scattered” can create feelings of shame, guilt, anxiety and low self-esteem?
Have you ever seen a child’s face drop at these words from a trusted adult: “You have so much potential, if you’d just apply yourself.”
Me too. I’ve been that kid. I’ve had that kid. Twice! And it breaks my heart every time, so…
I use a holistic approach to help:
- You understand why you do things the way you do; to get a grip on your real strengths and build on them so that you feel competent, confident and proud of your differently-wired mind. You get a break from the constant shame cycle, and get to enjoy life in all its perfect imperfection. You get to declare your space, your style and your way of thinking as valid and worthy even in the face of challenge.
- Your child reach deep inside to find their best and highest performance so that you get a happy, thriving, confident kid who can use that fun, intelligent, creative energy for goodness. You get peace at home*, and a child who understands their own system for learning and working; this leads to better self-regulation and more independence (also read: less nagging for you).
*Within limits, of course — this is coaching, not fantasy.
meet the team
Also called my inspiration, my greatest teachers, and the reasons I’ve barely slept since the early 2000’s.
The Benevolent Dictator
My son, the first among us to discover he has a supercharged brain, has been on the move since day one. He calls ADHD and dyslexia his “learning goodies” because he has learned how to harness their power.
She Who Must Not Be Ignored
My daughter, who hates being the last at anything, was the last among us to discover her supercharged brain. Despite her distraction, she catches everything — she’s a born negotiator who remembers mostly the details you wish she’d forget, and will debate your socks off.
And this is me: mama to two amazing kiddos, wife to the most patient and loving man ever, coach to some seriously spectacular Busy Brains(sm), and caretaker of my own ADHD mind–which sometimes takes on a life of its own. Dance saved my sanity and helped me create my own coping strategies when “ADHD” was barely even a thing (and certainly wasn’t suspected in girls).
photo credit: Bonnie J Heath Photography
I’m a mom and a wife. I have a very Busy Brain(sm) of my own and even on the most distracted days, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I’m a dancer, an introvert and a lifelong learner with the fashion sense and humor of a fifth grader — and I’m okay with that.
I’ve been teaching others dance, health and fitness since the first time legwarmers and headbands were cool, and took a tour through the professional world via human resources. Recruitment and development were my HR specialties because I loved making the perfect match between people and the work they love, and helping them do it really well.
My clients learn habits, tricks and tips I’ve learned along the way and continue picking up daily — and every combination is different because every person in every family is different. It’s like the souvenirs kids bring back from a hike: acorns, leaves, sticks, shiny rocks and more — all treasures of various size, and different every time.
Stuff you might notice about me:
- I overuse the word “awesome” — not because I don’t understand its meaning, but because I do. I find joy and wonder in big and small things all the time.
- My bookshelf is full of self-improvement, brain science, child development, nutrition, anatomy, exercise science and more….but not one page of fiction. Who’s got time when there’s so much to learn?
- If I could do it all over again without repeating anything, I’d want to be a stunt car driver. Or maybe a psychologist. Or a professional rock-star drummer. Possibly a fighter-jet pilot, but without the weapons.
- I’m usually the shortest person in the room — even a room full of kids.
- Music speaks to me in a way I can’t quite explain; I just wish I had an instant video record of what I see in my mind when hearing certain songs.
If you’re still here, you must be looking for the nitty-gritty. Here goes:
- Bachelor of Fine Arts in Dance Performance, University of North Carolina at Greensboro
- Dance experience over 40+ years (ballet, modern and most other styles)
- ACE-Certified Health Coach since 2005
- ACE-Certified Group Fitness Instructor since 2003; other group fitness certifications dating too far back to mention
- Other certificates:
- ACE-Certified Youth Fitness Specialist
- Junior Fitness
- Holistic Fitness Specialist
- Golf Conditioning Specialist
- Muscle Management Specialist
- Perinatal Fitness
- Aqua Fitness
- Carpal Tunnel Syndrome Treatment & Prevention
- YogaFit for Kids
- High Performance Nutrition
- Weight Management Specialist
- Longevity Wellness Specialist
- Strength Training
When my son was diagnosed at age 7, I dove head-first into all the research I could find on ADHD and dyslexia. Having been a dancer, and later a health and fitness coach, I saw all this information through the lens of physical health and its connection to the mind. When my son first told me he was embarrassed about being behind in class and feeling different from his friends…well, that’s what woke up the warrior mama in me. I knew I had to wage war on shame and guilt in order to show him how powerful he really is.
That began our strengths-based approach — and it made such a difference that others began to notice his happy smile, his progression at school and more. I couldn’t resist sharing all the good stuff we learned (and continue to learn!).
I am not about to allow feeling “less than” wreck childhood — or even adulthood — for anyone I can reach. Back to the gift analogy on the home page, I know there are layers of tough tape and wrapping to open — but I promise there are beautiful gifts inside. It’s my privilege and my mission to help you see and love them.
What’s to lose? Let’s talk for 15 minutes to see if fit-ology is a good match for your family. No strings, no BS, just real talk about the possibilities.